The one thing people can forget about parenthood is how isolating it can feel at times. As an adult there were only so many times I could have conversations with someone who’s only response was a long blank stare or the face that said, “I’m currently leaving a nice big surprise for you in my diaper!”. After a while of feeling like I had no one on my side to simply say “You Got This”, I started to build my support bubble. At first my support bubble was filled with like minded mamas on the internet. It became a place where I could express how tired I was, or how rough my day was doing without unnecessary advice or judgment. It wasn’t until I attended my first Mommycon that my support bubble grew from just moms on the internet to moms in real life. A place were I knew almost nobody but still felt so supported. My only regret was that I didn’t build my bubble sooner!
I had spent most of my pregnancy focusing on scare after scare, on top of worry after worry… there I was growing a human being inside of me and I was feeling so alone. I always wonder how my pregnancy experience would have changed had I had someone in my corner to lend encouraging words, or someone to reassure me that things would be okay.
At first I looked for support on a popular online pregnancy site that would have different groups depending on your due date month. The support was there… kind of, the support came with a lot of judgement. I then turned to social media outlets like Instagram and Facebook. I started to follow those who inspired me and understood what it meant to love motherhood so much but still feel guilt, exhaustion, and frustration. It was through that journey that I found Mommycon. I was fortunate enough to team up with our favorite cloth diaper brand and attend my first event. The energy there was incredible, I knew it was what I needed. I left that event ready for the next one. The support, the kindness, and the knowledge, it all was amazing.
While every Mommycon is different, I have walked away from each one feeling more confident and inspired. From the session I attended where I learned how important it was to have a great relationship with your child’s doctor, to the one where I was able to work through the emotions I had been holding onto as a result of a traumatic birthing experience.
Parenthood is hard enough without the feelings of loneliness and judgment. It never hurts to have someone in your corner who can give you a thumbs up when you most need it. That is what my bubble has been for me. It’s free of judgment and negativity. It’s my safe place.
I am so thankful that I can include Mommycon in my safe place. Whether you need support in babywearing, cloth diapering, birthing options, or other aspects of parenting, this is a great place to start. Not only are these events filled with a great variety of sessions, they have amazing vendors and the last Mommycon location this year (San Jose, Ca 10/29) is even having a babywearing/family halloween costume contest. HOW FUN!
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P.S. Remember to join the San Jose Mommycon Facebook group to chat about the upcoming event and recieve updates. Click This Link For The Group